So it’s raining all the time now. I worked in two brief walks between showers, but now there is thunder. I need to collect my neighbor’s mail, but not until the next storm passes.
Leonard Cohen wrote about lamenting in the right way. I know what he meant. I have made lamenting in the right way my life’s work. I know it helps people get through various and sundry dark nights of the soul. I can’t tell you why; maybe you have some ideas to share about that.
I was listening to a Patch Adams talk on YouTube in which he rails against the nuclear family. I so agree! Bob told me there was no work for him at home and work was his priority. So I gave up extended family, and not happily. Since the loss of my child and my husband’s death, Rob and I are left very much alone here. Rob had to be my caregiver this week. I know how hard that is. Caregivers worry. I took him out for dinner last night.
We thought the restaurant was closed until dinner time, but a lone server poked her head out and offered to take care of us. When I told her I would like a fried chicken sandwich, she said, “I can make that happen.” I struck up a conversation with her and she was immediately involved. “I just had cataract surgery,” I told her.
“Oh, my dad and sister had that done,” she said. Her name is Elizabeth and she made us feel for a moment like we had family everywhere. I just keep forgetting that. Some of you are like family for me. After all, I have been dishing out my emotional life in essay form for many years. I will close with the quote from Leonard Cohen. He is speaking of song, but that is okay. My song just happens in paragraphs. I found this quote on www.cohencentric.com
“If the song is authentically an expression of the person’s suffering, then the suffering is transcended and you don’t get the whine, you don’t get the complaint, even though it may be all about a whine and a complaint. It’s experienced as relief, as comfort, as pleasure.” ~ Leonard Cohen