There is the fire of earthly desires and the fire of purification from them. We generally choose the former and let the latter only come to us as a last resort. I know this to be true.
There is an easy path and a hard path. We choose the easy path and are led astray until the hard path knocks us down and keeps us there for longer and longer periods of time.
I have known both, as have you. The fire of earthly desire keeps me on Facebook looking for Likes. the fire of purification bids me leave it altogether.
I am wavering back and forth like a candle sputtering.
Soon enough time will reveal to me that I have run out of choices. Only the hard road will be left.
The hard road leads to death of the ego. After that, surrender is not just a word in the dictionary. It is what finally breaks you into so many pieces that you surrender into your primal nothingness. At this point, miracles happen.